A New Kind of Love

16 of #100DaysToOffload

Some say never judge a book by its cover, but I couldn’t resist.

The cover, showing a silhouetted man holding a gun to his head, caught my attention thanks to Amazon’s Customers also bought section.

No sooner had I started to read, I stumbled.

The author, Kamal Ravicant, says he published on Amazon expecting to sell ten copies, then a friend, James Altucher, wrote a blog post about it.

James Altucher has 214k followers on Twitter and is renowned for penning the book, Choose Yourself: Be Happy, Make Millions, Live the Dream. It’s like saying I wrote a song nobody would like, then my friend Paul McCartney played it on his podcast.

I gave the author a chance.

What can you glean from a short book based on a talk to scientists, Pentagon officials, politicians, and CEOs?

The message centres on a vow used by the author to escape a low point in life and through repetition, learn to love yourself with intensity.

The truth is to love yourself with the same intensity you would use to pull yourself up if you were hanging from a cliff with your fingers. The message is blunt, and although the topic sounds awkward, I needed to hear it.

In the past, I struggled to accept who I am and what I think. Liking myself would be an achievement yet here is someone who tells me to LOVE myself.

I continue to meditate on the words and think about myself in different ways, all thanks to this book.

For the first time in my life, I’ve said the words; I LOVE MYSELF.

Kamal’s theory lingers on the mystical — love works by entering the subconscious “where the magic happens”, and he imagines light flowing into his head from galaxies and stars while he meditates.

Fair enough.

If you’re giving yourself a hard time, ask Kamal’s question:

If I loved myself truly and deeply, would I let myself experience this?

The author has published a new and expanded edition with guided exercises. The cover is less dramatic, though.

I strongly recommend the book to everyone who doubts themselves.

The new narrative has replaced my negative monkey mind. Or at least the monkey is tamed somewhat.

I have a new affirmation during my meditation sessions, and it’s rescued me from the depths of self-doubt.

Kamal wants those who read his writing to be better for it, and I am.


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